as for me I am taking the easy way through…which is by getting a damn GED! even though I have no kids coming my way for at least until I feel like I have a stable life.

I’m making it all better for me now to make up for all those days that I would rather play video games than do what I was supposed to do! I deeply regret having to go through all the trouble of going from office to cless to ffice to class and so forth.

your story is truly worth expanding into a whole story with details so that future generations learn from our mistakes!

I am a drop out as well, my father resented me for doing so as he always told me "you won’t be able to find good paying blue collar work like I have based my life on".

In and out of jobs. Dealing with my addictions to video games (another reason for dropping out). To this day I still have a problem with games and I’m trying really hard to stay away from them.

I’ve been in and out of jobs, only 4 over the last 7 years and none of them have ever lasted very long. My father has died, and now we have this insurance money and I have to take care of my mother.

2 years have passed since my fathers passing and I was recently laid off from a trade that could have turned career. Games once again dominated my life, barely applying for jobs. The ones that I got interviews for were either being a scam artist with electricity plans or custodial work which was a good wage because the employer refused to hire the proper amount of people to do the insane amount of work.

I had a thought of being a police officer, I really would have liked to be one but one again laziness took over and confidence shrunk to a new low. I had an entire portfolio ready for goverment assistance becuase of my lay off, never submitted it because I was too scared to get in. Both my physical and mental capacities aren’t suited for the job and I should have realized how unrealistic I was being.

Still unemployed. I met a girl about a month ago. She has changed my life and I feel like such a loser now. She is the most breath taking woman I’ve seen and has been through college with her entire life in front of her. She is absolutely stunning and has the best personality I’ve ever seen.

I’m getting the urge to try to get into college again to prove my vein existance. Without assistance from the goverment; in real estate as I feel I would really enjoy it and want to make a career out of it. I have some HS credits to aquire for admission to the college, not to mention dealing with what I think is dyscalculia (similar to dyslexia but with mathematics).

I’m tired of being the loser and losing out in life and making others miserable by being that loser. I just hope my addictions don’t kick in again. I want to take care of my mother, and possibly my wife to be.

"At the lowest of the low, I had to borrow $20 from my neighbors to buy milk and diapers for my new son, Conor. This was the most humiliating experience of my life. I threatened suicide and my wife Chara called the police."

My dad didn’t ask me to do this, i just read this all the way today and i for one think that i am the luckiest kid on the entire face of the earth to have my dad the way he is now!

It’s interesting to hear that you directly equate ambition with the ability to succeed in school. While it may be the easiest path to success, it’s definitely not the only one, I hope my story can help show that.

I don’t know your story, but I refuse to accept that you are not full of ambition. Ambition is a choice, and something that you can decide to be.

Advice? Aw hell. I’m quite a mess myself. Didn’t you read the story on how much of a loser I am?

But since you asked, I would encourage the following:

1) Figure out what you want to do. I mean *really* want to do. This is called outcome thinking. So often people try to navigate through life with out thinking it through, and they just wind up bouncing off of one thing that doesn’t work to another — like a pinball. What is it that you want? Can you envision getting your first paycheck? Can you think what it will feel like to give that first amount of money to your boyfriend’s mom? What about after that? What kind of job will it be? Where will you grow? You will wind up *exactly* where you set out to. If you don’t set out to do anything…

2) Accept responsibility for where you are and where you are going. You’re a dropout. It’s not your mom’s fault. It’s not your dad’s fault. Nor your teacher nor your school nor your classmates. It’s your fault, and no one else’s. Still with me? Now, after you accept that — it’s painful — you realize that once you accept responsibility for the bad in your life, you also have the empowerment that comes from being able to control the good. Whether or not you wind up where you want to be in life is all about YOU.

So figure out where you want to be, and then get yourself there.

Good luck, and send me a note in a couple of years to let me know how well you’ve done.

-Nick

PS. More info on the suggestions above can be found by poking around on this site.

Quitting school now, because things are tough, would just be running away from pain. That would be a coward move to make things easier on you.

Looking for a recommendation? Figure out how this situation can make you stronger instead of trying to figure out how to get out of it.

More reading:
http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/pain-is-the-best-teacher
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Man%27s_Search_for_Meaning