Comments on: I am a high school dropout http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout Empower yourself with responsibility Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:34:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.3 By: Conor http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-279 Conor Thu, 28 Aug 2008 00:38:26 +0000 http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-279 This man, this amazing man that all of this happened to, and who had the guts to say all of it too, is my dad, yeah that's right i'm his first son, i didn't know some of the details of what happened to my dad, but now i do, and i praise him and am amazed that he could ever have done this last bit........... "At the lowest of the low, I had to borrow $20 from my neighbors to buy milk and diapers for my new son, Conor. This was the most humiliating experience of my life. I threatened suicide and my wife Chara called the police." My dad didn't ask me to do this, i just read this all the way today and i for one think that i am the luckiest kid on the entire face of the earth to have my dad the way he is now! This man, this amazing man that all of this happened to, and who had the guts to say all of it too, is my dad, yeah that’s right i’m his first son, i didn’t know some of the details of what happened to my dad, but now i do, and i praise him and am amazed that he could ever have done this last bit………..

"At the lowest of the low, I had to borrow $20 from my neighbors to buy milk and diapers for my new son, Conor. This was the most humiliating experience of my life. I threatened suicide and my wife Chara called the police."

My dad didn’t ask me to do this, i just read this all the way today and i for one think that i am the luckiest kid on the entire face of the earth to have my dad the way he is now!

]]> By: ???? http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-198 ???? Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:28:18 +0000 http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-198 I'm 15 and I can't stand high school when I wake up I almost cry thinking about going and I threw up this morning cause I did not want to go so bad. My mom says I don't have to go if I don't want to and I plan to quit this is the kind of thing I would rather than structure and school each day its what I am used to I would take this rather than high school. thank you for the story. I’m 15 and I can’t stand high school when I wake up I almost cry thinking about going and I threw up this morning cause I did not want to go so bad.
My mom says I don’t have to go if I don’t want to
and I plan to quit this is the kind of thing I would rather than structure and school each day its what I am used to I would take this rather than high school. thank you for the story.

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]]> By: nick http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-52 nick Wed, 16 Jan 2008 06:15:16 +0000 http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-52 Natasha, It's interesting to hear that you directly equate ambition with the ability to succeed in school. While it may be the easiest path to success, it's definitely not the only one, I hope my story can help show that. I don't know your story, but I refuse to accept that you are not full of ambition. Ambition is a choice, and something that you can decide to be. Advice? Aw hell. I'm quite a mess myself. Didn't you read the story on how much of a loser I am? ;-) But since you asked, I would encourage the following: 1) Figure out what you want to do. I mean *really* want to do. This is called outcome thinking. So often people try to navigate through life with out thinking it through, and they just wind up bouncing off of one thing that doesn't work to another -- like a pinball. What is it that you want? Can you envision getting your first paycheck? Can you think what it will feel like to give that first amount of money to your boyfriend's mom? What about after that? What kind of job will it be? Where will you grow? You will wind up *exactly* where you set out to. If you don't set out to do anything... 2) Accept responsibility for where you are and where you are going. You're a dropout. It's not your mom's fault. It's not your dad's fault. Nor your teacher nor your school nor your classmates. It's your fault, and no one else's. Still with me? Now, after you accept that -- it's painful -- you realize that once you accept responsibility for the bad in your life, you also have the empowerment that comes from being able to control the good. Whether or not you wind up where you want to be in life is all about YOU. So figure out where you want to be, and then get yourself there. Good luck, and send me a note in a couple of years to let me know how well you've done. ;-) -Nick PS. More info on the suggestions above can be found by poking around on this site. Natasha,

It’s interesting to hear that you directly equate ambition with the ability to succeed in school. While it may be the easiest path to success, it’s definitely not the only one, I hope my story can help show that.

I don’t know your story, but I refuse to accept that you are not full of ambition. Ambition is a choice, and something that you can decide to be.

Advice? Aw hell. I’m quite a mess myself. Didn’t you read the story on how much of a loser I am? ;-)

But since you asked, I would encourage the following:

1) Figure out what you want to do. I mean *really* want to do. This is called outcome thinking. So often people try to navigate through life with out thinking it through, and they just wind up bouncing off of one thing that doesn’t work to another — like a pinball. What is it that you want? Can you envision getting your first paycheck? Can you think what it will feel like to give that first amount of money to your boyfriend’s mom? What about after that? What kind of job will it be? Where will you grow? You will wind up *exactly* where you set out to. If you don’t set out to do anything…

2) Accept responsibility for where you are and where you are going. You’re a dropout. It’s not your mom’s fault. It’s not your dad’s fault. Nor your teacher nor your school nor your classmates. It’s your fault, and no one else’s. Still with me? Now, after you accept that — it’s painful — you realize that once you accept responsibility for the bad in your life, you also have the empowerment that comes from being able to control the good. Whether or not you wind up where you want to be in life is all about YOU.

So figure out where you want to be, and then get yourself there.

Good luck, and send me a note in a couple of years to let me know how well you’ve done. ;-)

-Nick

PS. More info on the suggestions above can be found by poking around on this site.

]]> By: natasha http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-51 natasha Wed, 16 Jan 2008 04:41:29 +0000 http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-51 nick, i find your story incredibly heart-spoken. i am 17 and technically a high school dropout. i have been in foster homes since i was fifteen and from there my ambition to achieve went downhill. i ran away from the home i was in about a month and a half ago. but to be completely honest, i wouldnt go back for anything. continuing school after this is hard. i cannot un-enroll and re-enroll myself while still being a minor. sorry, long story short, im living with my boyfriend and his mother and while it is all fine i need to start helping with bills as she cannot do it on her own. im looking for a job, but i am fretting about getting a work permit. can i tell an employer that i am a dropout and cannot get a permit? a friend offered to get one from her school for me and i could forge the signiture, but it all sounds too easy to work. anyway, your story gave me a boost of confidence that i need at this time and point in my life. i have to live with the choices i've made and i want to do that as best as possible. i need something to fill up my time. and i'd like it to be somewhat productive. Please, if you ahve anything to say or any advice to give feel free to let me know. i need any input i can get. thank you, Natasha nick,
i find your story incredibly heart-spoken. i am 17 and technically a high school dropout. i have been in foster homes since i was fifteen and from there my ambition to achieve went downhill. i ran away from the home i was in about a month and a half ago. but to be completely honest, i wouldnt go back for anything. continuing school after this is hard. i cannot un-enroll and re-enroll myself while still being a minor. sorry, long story short, im living with my boyfriend and his mother and while it is all fine i need to start helping with bills as she cannot do it on her own. im looking for a job, but i am fretting about getting a work permit. can i tell an employer that i am a dropout and cannot get a permit? a friend offered to get one from her school for me and i could forge the signiture, but it all sounds too easy to work. anyway, your story gave me a boost of confidence that i need at this time and point in my life. i have to live with the choices i’ve made and i want to do that as best as possible. i need something to fill up my time. and i’d like it to be somewhat productive. Please, if you ahve anything to say or any advice to give feel free to let me know. i need any input i can get.
thank you,
Natasha

]]> By: nick http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-43 nick Thu, 08 Nov 2007 18:06:29 +0000 http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-43 I think you may be taking the original post the wrong way. It is meant to highlight a difficult uphill battle that was faced when the traditional route is not followed. Quitting school now, because things are tough, would just be running away from pain. That would be a coward move to make things easier on you. Looking for a recommendation? Figure out how this situation can make you stronger instead of trying to figure out how to get out of it. More reading: http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/pain-is-the-best-teacher http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Man%27s_Search_for_Meaning I think you may be taking the original post the wrong way. It is meant to highlight a difficult uphill battle that was faced when the traditional route is not followed.

Quitting school now, because things are tough, would just be running away from pain. That would be a coward move to make things easier on you.

Looking for a recommendation? Figure out how this situation can make you stronger instead of trying to figure out how to get out of it.

More reading:
http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/pain-is-the-best-teacher
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Man%27s_Search_for_Meaning

]]> By: Holland http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-42 Holland Thu, 08 Nov 2007 06:21:49 +0000 http://www.flexyouruniverse.com/life/i-am-a-high-school-dropout#comment-42 Wow...I read this and was completley relating myself to it...im 15 1/2 years old and am on the verge of dropping out of school...and my parents are threatening to put me into a juvinile delinquint program, because i dont want to go to school. I have 2 weeks to get a job or im going to Juvi. Can you reccomend anything or help me out? Wow…I read this and was completley relating myself to it…im 15 1/2 years old and am on the verge of dropping out of school…and my parents are threatening to put me into a juvinile delinquint program, because i dont want to go to school. I have 2 weeks to get a job or im going to Juvi. Can you reccomend anything or help me out?

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